Emotional and Physical Recovery after an Injury | My funny BMX Bike Story
Let Kris J Simpson tell you about his rise and fall over the past weekend.
I’m still smiling, but I had fallen, and I have gotten up.
I got some R.I.C.E going on here. That’s Rest, Ice, Compression, and Elevation. So here’s what happened, I brought my son and his friend to the skate park. My son just got a BMX bike, and he’s getting into it. My son wanted to show me the skate park, so I said, “okay, sure whatever.”
I got on my son’s bike to see why the front wheel was making a funny noise. I start making my way around the parking lot then made my way over to the skate park, and my son says, “papa, why don’t you try it, why don’t you go check it out?
I don’t know if you’ve ever seen a skate park, but there’s these concrete half pipes and rails that I’ve seen in movies or on YouTube, but I’ve never really seen them in person. I decided to go ahead, and them give it a try. I decided to go down the halfpipe. It went well; I got to the other side. I said to myself, “wow that was kind of exhilarating, I’d like to try that again.” I started looking at the other things in the skate park. I decided to head to the ramp and try to jump off of it, and my front wheel dove down, and I went ass over end. I was thrown onto the ground. Fortunately, I wasn’t going too fast yet my arm was the absorber, because it was my head that hit next.
When I got up, I was seeing birds flying around my head because I was a little bit concussed afterward.
The verdict: I’ve got an AC separation, or what they call a separated shoulder. I’m hoping that it’s a level 1 sprain, instead of a level 2 or a level 3, but I definitely got some rehabilitation sessions to attend in the weeks to come.
It’s not the first time I’ve blown out my shoulder, but I certainly didn’t want this to happen. I’ve been injury-free now for probably about a year. I wanted to share this video with you because I think that the lessons that came out of it are applicable to any kind of setback or any kind of fail that we experience in life.
Was I going to suffer or was I going to surrender?
There is quite the difference between a state of suffering and a state of surrendering. In a sense, I was suffering because I was like, “wow, I’m not going be able to train, and my physical power, my physical strength has been taken away from me.” But here’s the thing, when I woke up this morning, all those fears were still there, but I started looking for ways that I could accept what had happened. So I went back to where I always find power, power over my fears, and it’s in my fears. If you’ve heard my philosophy, it’s in my book The All Inclusive Diet, it’s a bit of a paradox where we can find power in our F.E.A.R.S., which is an acronym for food, emotions, activity, relaxing, and sleeping. Therefore, I got on my elliptical this morning even though I can’t do any weight training at this point in time. I spoke to my spiritual sensei and we had a great, enlightening, and uplifting conversation. He really brought my spirits up. I also allowed my daughter and my Mandy to take care of me. They put some ice on my head and this little cut that I have on my leg.
There’s bravado, and then there’s bravery.
What happened yesterday was definitely a bravado kind of experience. My son said, “hey papa, why don’t you do it?” Which really said to me, or what I thought he was saying to me was, “papa, you can’t do it.” Well, of course, I can do it I thought to myself. That’s bravado, so sort of doing something for somebody else to prove that you can do that thing that you really don’t need to do, because that’s really not important to you, and you definitely don’t know how to do, but you’re going to do it anyway. That’s what bravado means to me in that situation. Now bravery is something different. Half pipes, BMX bikes, scootering, that whole world, it’s interesting but it’s not important to me, that’s for sure. And you know, when we’re brave, that’s where we have to think about what is important to us. These are typically things that we probably could do, probably even know how to do it, but we don’t do it because we have fears. And that’s what stops us. But being brave and having courage is key. Courage is the root word which means, “coming from the heart” and using the emotional energy of faith and hope. Doing the things that require courage, that’s what bravery means to me. But they got to be important, and they shouldn’t be happening, for me anyways, at a skate park for example.
Is it a real fear or a false fear?
I always talk about false fears. These are the fears that we have inside of us that stop us from doing the things that we need to do for ourselves and making changes that we need to make in our life. But there are real fears. Real fears are doing things that perhaps you don’t know how to do, and you need to investigate a little bit more, before you go down that slippery slope or the slippery half pipe that I went down. It’s something that I’m learning from, and really the reason why I’m getting on here. There is no studio, there are no lights, I’m just in my house and Mandy’s filming for me. I really wanted to get this out there because I’ve seen it so many times before, where people unnecessarily suffer. I’ve seen it being a gym owner, as people get it into motor vehicle accidents and these really traumatic kind of accidents, where they have injuries that traumatize them. I don’t see them anymore. They were doing so well, they were getting stronger, emotionally, physically, etc. But it’s all the same, we have to make a choice. Are we going to get up or are we going to stay down? And if we stay down, you know where we are? We’re in the emotional state of what we call depression, and it’s a really ugly, dark place to be. Nothing grows there because it’s very dark and lonely. When I see people there, I want to help them; I want to be that hand that helps them up.
How to heal?
I’m doing this video here for you today, so if you went through trauma before, emotional or physical the rules still apply. If you’re going through that right now and you haven’t gone to where I know you can find power, which is the five facets of our life. We can find power in eating well, we can find power in emotional health and self-exploration, just getting to know our selves a little bit more, our real true selves, activity, getting active, getting into the gym, walking, etc. I got nine hours of sleep last night because I know that’s going to be really important to keep my head in the right place today so that I don’t get my head up my butt, where I start thinking about all the things that I’m going lose over the next few weeks as I’m going through this recovery period.
Success is always measured by the comeback, not by all the times we’ve failed or that we have fallen.
Inspire to Aspire,
Kris J Simpson
Author & Life Coach
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