Have you been in a stressed state lately and haven’t been able to relax?
It’s challenging to remain in a relaxed state these days because there is so many distractions, and so many things to do and so little time to do them.
So it would be paradoxical to think that taking five minutes out of your intensely busy day to relax and do nothing would be beneficial. But this is the paradox that allows us to do so much more in our life with grace and ease.
Stress is just the modern day word for fear. And it affects our F.E.A.R.S. In my book; the All Inclusive Diet, I explain that our F.E.A.R.S or the five-facets of our lifestyles (Food, Emotions, Activity, Relaxing and Sleeping) are influenced by our state of being.
When we are in a stressed state, we behave quite differently than if we were in a relaxed state. We make different food choices; we tend to be more reactive in our relationships with others, and have higher levels of emotional variability.
Our activity decreases as being active become less of a priority when we are dealing with crisis or conflict in our lives. We don’t take the time to relax because there’s no time for it and our sleeping patterns change as well.
I would like to share with you a five-minute relaxing technique which will allow you to create some space so that you can begin to get a perspective on the reality of a stressful situation. It is that moment in time that you will be able to resolve it.
I call it the Four B’s of Being Present. It is something that I practice each morning. Here are the steps:
Do four cycles of this timed breathing sequence:
Inhale – 4 seconds
Hold your breath – 7 seconds
Exhale – 8 seconds
Place your right hand on your left chest so you can feel the beat of your heart and continue to focus on breathing normally.
Ask yourself internally this questions –
What have I been blessed with?
What do I have in my life right now that I am thankful and grateful for? This could be a person, the place you are in currently or a particular thing that you have in your life.
Focus on your answer and keep repeating it internally.
Ask yourself internally these questions –
What do you need to be blessed with?
What do you need currently in your life that would enable you to be a better person? Something that will help you serve more people in your life (this could be more courage, more patience or more compassion).
Focus on your response and continue repeating it.
This practice should be done in a quiet place, sitting upright in a comfortable position, preferably with your eyes closed. It should be done for a minimum of five minutes, but you can extend the time if you wish. I recommend working up to 20 minutes. Watch the video for a full demonstration.
The focus of this practice is not on the intensity, but rather the consistency. It will bring immediate relief if you are currently under stress, and with continued practice, it will allow you to avoid getting into a stressful state in the first place.
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